Loneliness - You're Not Alone

by Adena Harmon

As I traveled to meet with a builder and real estate agent in upper Michigan, I suddenly realized just how profound my loneliness was. I had hoped to meet someone during my time in Detroit since I was flying in and out from here, but weeks ago, she had told me, "Sorry, I won't be here." My heart sank. We had discussed meeting in person for over a year. Although we have drifted apart in terms of developing a friendship, we have work on a project that keeps us connected for a while longer.

As I sit here in the Detroit airport alone, I realize I could easily move to sit near someone and strike up a conversation, but the weight of my sadness feels overwhelming at the moment. It’s moments like this when I have to remind myself of self-care and even when I don’t want to do something, I should.

One human emotion, loneliness often finds its way into our lives, sitting heavily in the chest, a paradoxical blend of absence and presence. This feeling can creep up in the quiet moments of the night or amidst a crowd, whispering reminders of isolation. Yet, in the vast expanse of loneliness, it's crucial to remember: you are not alone in feeling alone. At various points, everyone grapples with this emotion, a universal experience that, ironically, connects us all.

Understanding Loneliness

Loneliness is not merely being alone; it's a subjective feeling of being disconnected, unseen, or misunderstood by those around us. It can affect anyone, regardless of their social circle's size. Understanding that loneliness is a common human emotion is the first step towards addressing it. It's a signal, much like hunger or thirst, indicating that our need for meaningful social interaction is unmet.

Ways to Work Through Loneliness

 Acknowledge Your Feelings: Embrace your emotions without judgment. Acknowledging loneliness can be empowering, allowing you to take proactive steps towards change.

• Connect or Reconnect: Reach out to family, friends, or acquaintances. Sometimes, sending a simple message can open the door to conversations and connections that alleviate feelings of isolation.

• Engage in Activities You Love: Whether it's painting, hiking, reading, or dancing, immersing yourself in activities that bring you joy can provide solace and fulfillment.

• Volunteer: Offering your time and energy to causes you care about connects you with others and can create a sense of purpose and community.

• Explore New Interests: Join clubs, classes, or groups aligned with your interests. This can be a great way to meet people who share your passions.

• Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself. Engage in self-care practices and remind yourself that it's okay to feel lonely and that these feelings don't define your worth or your future.

• Seek Professional Help: Sometimes, loneliness can be overwhelming, affecting your mental health. Therapists or counselors can provide strategies to cope with these feelings and help you build meaningful connections.

Remember - You Aren't Alone

Perhaps the most comforting aspect of loneliness is its universality. At one point or another, everyone faces it, which in itself creates a silent thread of connection between us all. Sharing your experiences with loneliness can not only help you process your feelings but also remind others that they aren't alone in theirs.

Loneliness is a complex emotion, but it's also a transient one. By understanding it, acknowledging it, and taking steps to reconnect with ourselves and others, we can navigate through its murky waters. Remember, the feeling of loneliness is a universal one, bridging us in shared experience. In reaching out, engaging with the world, and embracing our interests, we can find light in solitude and remind ourselves of the connections that await us, often just a conversation away.